If you’ve had an experience where someone has wronged you, you understand how it can affect you. It could’ve been a conversation that you overheard, an email that was inadvertently sent to you, a co-worker who took credit for work that you performed, or being blamed for something that you weren’t even responsible for. When that happens, trust goes out the door, and you are left with a feeling of betrayal. If left unresolved, the problem just gets bigger in our minds and bitterness sets in. You can kiss productivity and a positive attitude goodbye.
Hanging on to that experience only hurts you. The other person may not even realize that you’re hurt. Decide right now to put this behind you. Here are some suggestions…
- Pray for the person who hurt you – It’s easy to love those who love you, but as Christians we are called to love and pray for our enemies as well. Jesus said in the Sermon on the Mount “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matt 5:44.
- Have a reconciling spirit – As hard as it is, if you really want to get past this, you must have a heart for reconciliation versus retribution.
- Don’t get even – “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” Romans 12:19
- Talk it out – “If your brother sins against you, go to him. Tell him what he did wrong. Keep it between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won him back.” Matt 18:15
- For your own sake, forgive – Remember, you don’t forgive someone for his or her sake – you forgive them for your sake. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Col 3:13Also Read:
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